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HERLIFE MAGAZINE MARCH 2013 KEEPING WOMEN CONNECTED IN THIS ISSUE FRENCH WINE AND CHEESES AND MORE HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM TRAVELING THE ROAD TO HER DREAM GABRIELLA BIEDINGER When you partner with Sutter Health you partner with the most advanced intensive care nurseries and a health care system that delivers more babies than any other in Northern California. It s how we plus you. 2 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 3 Q A With gas prices soaring at the pump and being so unpredictable is there anything I can do to improve the gas mileage of my current vehicle Yes there are some basic maintenance services that will help keep your vehicle in top performance when it comes to gas mileage. First check your tire pressure. Under-inflated tires can drastically affect your vehicle s performance and overall safety. Second be sure your vehicle is up-to-date with the oil and filter change. Changing the oil at recommended intervals can increase the longevity of your vehicle but it also can affect your vehicle s performance including gas mileage in a positive way. Lastly watch your lead foot. Driving the speed limit and not racing between lights is safe for you and your family but you also will see the results at the pump Talking Q A I am considering buying a new vehicle. Any advice on why I should consider a hybrid The search for a new vehicle is exciting and should be fun. Comfort fuel efficiency and the environment usually are considerations in our decision-making. For many people reducing their carbon footprint and maintaining a green image are important factors. Consider your commute as well. Some hybrid and electric vehicles qualify for the Access OK sticker in California which allows you to drive in the carpool lane whether you are driving solo or not. Reducing your carbon footprint and saving time and money at the pump are the most common reasons drivers choose a hybrid. The hybrid technology has come a long way in the past decade. If performance is something you are hesitant about in a hybrid take a test drive. You will be surprised by the power and zip behind the Chevy lineup of hybrid and electric vehicles. Talia their vehicles. Please email your questions to Talia with Talia Ferraiolo is the Marketing and Social Media Director for Chase Chevrolet. In addition to marketing Talia is responsible for bringing events to Chase Chevrolet like the 10 Things Every Woman Needs to Know About Her Vehicle event held last Fall. Talia encourages our HERLife readers to learn more about 6 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM McHenry Village HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 7 HERLIFE contents GABRIELLA BIEDINGER A long and winding road took Gabriella Biedinger to the inspiration for La Pink Boutique the Central Valley s first fashion truck. A job change a few pity parties and creative thinking about her love of fashion pointed her in the direction of this unique boutique on wheels. 22 The rule of three is an extremely easy way to eat healthier without having to be focused totally on food to the exclusion of other priorities in one s life. contents 10 14 16 18 20 22 26 28 30 32 34 36 38 44 46 48 52 54 56 58 60 62 64 66 70 76 Welcome Health Spotlight Beauty Cosmetic Surgery Inspirations Integrative Medicine Cravings Culinary Recipes Wine Spotlight Trendsetter Mother s Perspective Working Women Finance Green Living Prime Home Travel Spotlight Bridal She Said Yes Tie the Knot Scene And Be Seen In the Valley 14 Define Clothing McHenry Village Modesto (209) 545-2885 38 Paying attention to our budget is an important part of household management. However just because funds are limited doesn t mean you have to skip your much-needed and desired getaways. 58 8 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 9 HERLIFE welcome SPRING AHEAD A s Daylight Savings Time approaches and signs of spring begin to bud all around us it feels as though in the blink of an eye we are already well into 2013. As we prepare to spring ahead for Daylight Savings I am amazed at how quickly time passes as my family celebrates Jackson s fourth birthday. I feel as though someone has pressed the fast forward button on my life. From baby to boy I have watched him grow and now in a state of pure panic I search for the pause button in an effort to catch my breath and enjoy the ride. When you become a new mom friends and family offer advice and words of wisdom. While some of the advice may be unwanted I remember several friends warning me about how quickly the time would pass. As a new mom struggling to find balance between sleep my baby s sleep nursing and the occasional diaper blow-out there were times when I had hoped those days would pass quickly and I could blink my eyes into the future of restful nights and a potty-trained son. Four years later as Jackson sleeps through the night (most nights) and is successfully potty-trained I am desperate for the time to pass slowly. Time does heal all wounds and my memories of Jackson as a baby are filled with happiness. I seem to have forgotten the stress the panicked phone calls to my mother the tears and the sleepless nights. Moms must be designed to remember the joyful times of raising our children. Happy Birthday Jackson As I watch you grow and learn I realize that I am the one doing the learning. You are a great teacher as I learn to be patient to love and to forgive. p h o t o b y s t u d io m o hs o h Like HERLIFE Magazine on Facebook to stay current on great discounts special events and behind-the-scenes details 10 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM A N E XC L U S I V E W I N E TA S T I N G E V E N T 20 13 S U N D AY 28 APRIL HIGHLIGHTING THEIR LIGHT REDS WHITES AND ROS S. ACCOMPANIED BY CU I S I NE AN ART SHOWCASE AND LIVE MUSIC BY IKE AND MARTIN. 2-5 P M AT WINE & R OS E S featurin 24 LO D I W I N E R I E S S P R I N G O F TH E V I N E W I N E D I N N E R J O I N THE WINEMAKERS AND WINERIES FOR A FAMILY-STYLE DINNER SHOWCASING FRESH SEASONA L C U I S I NE AND A SELECTION OF THE F EATURED WINES FROM THE EVENT. 6P M IN THE GARDEN BA LLROOM WI NE TAST IN G E V E N T 35 p er p ers o n i n a d va nce ( 45 d ay o f eve nt) WI NE DIN N E R 8 5 p e r p ers o n. E V E N T A N D DI N N ER CO M B I N E D T I C K E T 1 0 5 p e r p e rs o n . 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We do not necessarily endorse the views expressed in the articles and advertisements nor are we responsible for the products and services advertised. We welcome your ideas articles and feedback. SUBSCRIPTIONS Subscriptions are available for 20 (for 12 issues). Please go to or mail a check made out to HERLIFE Magazine to the above address. To contact HERLIFE Magazine 12 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 13 HERLIFE health MAKING HEALTHY FOOD CHOICES USING THE RULE OF THREE b y lin d a r. p ric e I f you answer the following three questions you have one of the easiest diets around. It uses the rule of three to determine healthy food choices Is it fun for me or good for me Is it low-fat or low-carb Is it fast food or good food By following the three rules above you eliminate the necessity to focus on food diets and dieting. In other Carla D. Spencer MBA RD LD CN explains it this way The So let s look at the three questions. First Is it fun for me or good for me We all know that a milk chocolate candy bar and cheesecake are not really good for us. They are too full of sugars and fats. However they are both so fun for me. Often these foods have no nutritional value and should be limited in a healthy diet. Thus if I indulge in these treats I should also indulge in a really good protein and one veggie fruit or grain. I can live with that. The second question Is it low-fat or low-carb Low-fat and lowcarb means fewer calories and probably more nutrients than high-fat and high-carb foods. A good trick here is to avoid refined white foods such as breads and potatoes. Pizza doughnuts potato chips and white rice do not fall into the low-fat low-carb category. If you stick to whole grains such as barley brown rice buckwheat bulgur quinoa oats and corn and legumes such as beans lentils dried peas and peanuts you are getting low-fat low-carb foods. Low-fat milk yogurt cheese and other dairy products are wise choices to get all the protein and calcium needed in our daily diet. Fruits are considered low-fat low-carb choices. They are simple carbohydrates that are easily digested. They are loaded with vitamins minerals and fiber to fill us up. All of these foods are packed with nutrients and fiber that help us feel full. Our third question Is it fast food or good food McDonald s Big words you can get on with your life. rule of three is an extremely easy way to eat healthier without having to be focused totally on food to the exclusion of other priorities in one s life. Because the rule of three states that every time you eat you must eat one portion each from three different food groups with one choice required to be from the protein group and the other two being either vegetable fruit sweets or grains this approach becomes easily integrated into everyday living. This approach has a primary advantage in its ability to avoid making sacrifices in preferences family choice meals settings cooking requirements socioeconomic status educational level or many other factors that frequently are quoted as the reasons people fail when they attempt to eat healthier. For example it is possible to eat even at McDonald s and be successful with a hamburger (protein) onehalf bun (grain) and small salad. The key is to eat single portions and to eat across many food groups. 14 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Mac with a side order of fries and a soda are not good for us. They are fast The rule of three is an extremely easy way to eat healthier without having to be focused totally on food to the exclusion of other priorities in one s life. Because the rule of three states that every time you eat you must eat one portion each from three different food groups with one choice required to be from the protein group and the other two being either vegetable fruit sweets or grains this approach becomes easily integrated into everyday living. foods full of fats and carbs and we all know it. Good food is brightly colored (carrots oranges plums pumpkins squash bell peppers and beans). Choose fruits and vegetables from a rainbow of colors. What micronutrients one doesn t have the other probably does. Good food need not take forever to prepare. One of my favorite sources for really good food that can be prepared in less than 15 minutes is in a magazine produced by a major weight loss program readily available at supermarkets. If you live alone you have the added advantage of preparing a big pot of chili or soup freezing the extra portions and cooking only once. Even if you lose weight by following the diet a good idea is to get in a little extra exercise especially if you give in to your weaknesses. No one wants flabby upper arms or muffin tops. We need the exercise to tone up the flab. Exercise will also boost our metabolism (helping us lose weight) stabilize our blood sugar and reduce stress. The Rule of Three diet has its advantages. It s easy to follow and easy to understand. It doesn t require you to track points calories or portion size. You can do these things if you have the time and the desire to do so but it s not necessary. Since it relieves the stress of tracking what you put in your mouth and time needed to do so you are freer to enjoy life and more importantly food--glorious food. Sources HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 15 HERLIFE spotlight LODI HEALTH L b y an n e. b u t e na s ph o t o s b y b re b a s z le r odi Memorial Hospital has come a long way since it first opened its doors in 1952 and this year is shaping up to be one of its best years yet This private not-for-profit in November of 2012 became the first in the county to offer roboticassisted technology for use in general surgical procedures such as urological gynecological and general surgeries. With exciting 3-D hospital is growing by leaps and bounds with respect to capabilities the surgeon can perform less-invasive procedures with scarring and better outcomes. the services it offers the City of Lodi and the surrounding far more precision and accuracy. For the patient this translates to less Bear in mind these robots do not actually perform the surgeries but are merely designed to assist the surgeons by providing greater control and precision even in the most intricate of surgeries noted Carol. Several of our surgeons are currently using this technology with tremendous results. In fact the robotic arms can actually filter minute tremors of the human hand allowing for a greater degree of steadiness. The doctors look at images in their viewfinders and on screens to see everything from a 3-D perspective giving the same effect as if they were actually in the body but they are doing so with teeny tiny incisions in a very precise fashion explained Carol. Through the use of robotic-assisted surgeries patients will experience minimal pain enjoy faster recovery times decreased hospital stays less blood loss reduced risk of infection less anesthesia and a quicker return to normal daily activities. To put this in perspective the long-standing procedure of a hyscommunities holding true to its original mission of providing the best in quality services and personal care. Effective this year Lodi Memorial Hospital will change its name to Lodi Health which is owned by the non-profit Lodi Memorial Hospital Association. Even though its name has changed its commitment to providing quality medical care via best-practice medicine and sophisticated technology education and support services remains in full effect. According to Carol Farron community development director significant changes are coming to Lodi Health in 2013 and one of the most exciting comes in the form of available advanced technologies with overall patient care in mind most specifically robotic technology. Over the years Lodi Health has consistently invested in advanced technologies to provide the best care for its patients and the recent acquisition of robotic-assisted surgeries is indicative of their commitment to that end. Lodi Health remains on the leading edge of such innovations and 16 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM terectomy meant a four- to six- inch incision along the pubic bone followed by the removal of the uterus and other related parts. The patient would then be sewn up spend a couple of days in the hospital and most likely endure six weeks of recuperation. With the robotic technology there are only small incisions no longer than one quarter of an inch and instead of using stitches the doctors need only place sterile strips on the surgical site said Carol. For surgical procedures on cancer patients this also means a far greater chance of getting all of the cancer. In addition to providing this fabulous new technology Lodi Memorial Hospital is undergoing a tremendous rebranding crusade as it unveils its new name this year. We are excited about the many programs and services we now offer the community expressed Carol. Over the past 28 years we have evolved into more of a health system that boasts nearly 60 separate businesses including the hospital various medical practices and numerous multi-specialties and out-patient programs. With exciting 3-D capabilities the surgeon can perform less-invasive procedures with far more precision and accuracy. For the patient this translates to less scarring and better outcomes. Lodi Health also offers a wealth of community services such as a home health agency an outpatient pharmacy a fitness center a preschool center a durable medical equipment company several outpatient rehabilitation services for heart stroke and COPD patients 17 medical practices and numerous joint ventures including two outpatient surgery centers an endoscopy center and an advanced imaging center. Additionally there is a free clinic for the uninsured. Lodi Health provides free health screenings at public events throughout the year and offers speakers who are available to present at community groups upon request. We want our community members to know that we have a broad scope of programs and services available and that we also provide an exceptional continuum of care emphasized Carol. We are so excited about our new brand our new look and all that we have offer. You are invited to experience the best choice in health care at Lodi Health. For more information on Lodi Health visit them at 975 S.Fairmont Ave. Lodi call 209-334-3411 or go online at HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 17 HERLIFE beauty FIND THE PERFECT HAIRCUT FOR YOUR FACE SHAPE b y b e t h b la ir I f you feel like your hairstyle is in a rut maybe it s time for a fresh look. But when you do make a change take your face shape into consideration to accomplish the most flattering style for different shapes so it s not an exact science. What we try to achieve is a balanced look. For example if you have a long face our goal would be to shorten the face by adding volume on the sides. I would suggest staying away from straight one-length haircuts parted down the middle. This will only lengthen the face. Go for a style that s parted on the side with shorter layers starting just below the ears. Adding a little extra body with a few waves directed away from the face will lighten and lift the sides. Proportionally it would be the best way to go. If you re interested in some more suggestions here are some cues from other experts. Oval Face Wavy or curly hair is ideal for flattering an oval face shape said Gavert Atelier s style director Mika Fowler. The great thing about oval-shaped faces is that they can pretty much pull off any style and a bang isn t always necessary. Some stylists say oval is the perfect face shape because you can do just about anything hair-wise with it shared celebrity hairstylist Nelson Vercher who also suggests asking for a long-layered haircut that gives lots of body with short bits around the face. you. Hairstylist and makeup artist Amanda Shackleton said There are definite rules in place about what cuts work on different face shapes but be careful not to take them too literally. Most people are a combination of Square Face The square shape can be tricky so you have to be careful to make sure your haircut 18 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM hits your face in the right place as the sides of the jawline can be a problem said Nelson. Request a short choppy pixie cut with lots of texture cut into it and a softness around the face. Mika chimed in that wavy hair that is not too straight or curly flatters the square-shaped face. Someone who has a square-shaped face needs fringe around the hairline in order to create a softer jawline. You never want to do a heavy bang for this face shape as it only exaggerates the face shape. When asking a stylist it s best to request a dry-cut Mika said. You want to see the hair in its natural form how it falls off the head and where the appropriate cut will take place that has an organic less shapely feel. Also if you re into color I recommend light color around the cheekbone area as it adds more softness around the lower section of the face. As for keeping the style Mika has a secret she recommends. Most people are not too familiar with dry spray waxes and I live by these. They are the perfect product for styles like these as they create dimension and shape without it looking forced or too tamed she said. The way to pull this look off is always to go for a laid-back feel that is not polished. Round Face The round face shape can be hard if you don t get your length right said Nelson. It will make your face look rounder if you have short layers on top or too much length on the bottom. Ask for a midlength cut with shorter layers on top for volume. If you have a round face straight or wavy hair works best and curly if you want to really work those arm muscles with the blow dryer said Mika. You want to make sure that the bangs you are asking for are not heavy bangs but more of a side sweep bang she continued. To fully achieve this look you want to make sure there is height on top of the head so the recommended product for this is a root volumizer. Heart-Shaped Face All hair types work with a heart-shaped face shared Mika. Although Nelson pointed out Heart-shaped faces can get lost in hair fast so it s very important to have a mid- to short-look as a haircut. Ask for a mid-length layered bob with bangs that can be swept to the side. When aiming to flatter a heart-shaped face consider a mediumlength side fringe coming up behind the cheekbone area to give the chin support for a dramatic style recommended Mika. In addition the drastic fringe takes less attention away from the cheekbones creating more on the lower section of the face to even out the look entirely. Amanda also suggested longer side-swept bangs for heartshaped faces. This will disguise a larger forehead and bring it in proportion to your jaw. Sources and nelsonvercher. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 19 HERLIFE cosmetic surgery Q The cost of Juv derm tissue fillers can vary greatly from one doctor s office to another. Why is that A The costs associated with Juv derm treatments depend on two key elements the doctor s cost of the product and the skill of the person who is injecting it into your skin. Juv derm and other types of tissue fillers are widely available to doctors and prices are pretty much the same for everyone. The actual experience of the injector however can vary greatly from office to office and even within a single office. Since the final cosmetic results (and thus the ultimate happiness of the patient) depend so much on the artistic eye and steady hand of the injector it only makes sense that offices with highly trained and experienced injectors will be more likely to charge slightly higher fees for their services. cision made by the patient. There are a number of very straightforward and simple procedures easily performed in the office which can reduce and balance the size and projection of the nipples. Since the treatment could interfere with the passage of milk through the nipples I typically recommend that patients defer any treatment until they have completely finished breast feeding. Q I have been told that if I get a facelift I must continue to get additional facelift surgery in the future or I will look worse than if I never had a facelift at all. Is that true A Q A We read about individuals who are addicted to plastic surgery. Can you explain how and why this happens The overwhelming majority of patients seeking cosmetic surgery are normal sane well-adjusted individuals who seek to improve or correct a body part that to them is abnormal or unattractive. Numerous psychological studies have shown that when such improvements are made the patient s self-image and self-esteem soar. However there are people who pursue plastic surgery not to improve their appearance in a way that others would say is justifiable but rather to fix some imagined deformity that only they can see. These patients focus pathologically on their imagined defects and it commonly disrupts their ability to function normally. They focus entirely on the fix and undergo multiple plastic surgery procedures in order to get back to normal. Such patients are totally preoccupied with some trivial or insignificant flaw in their appearance. This preoccupation often results in significant distress to the patient and often impairment in socialization behavior. Most plastic surgeons are trained to identify this psychological condition often referred to as body dysmorphic disorder (BDD) and strive to avoid performing any form of elective cosmetic surgery on them. Such patients are far better served by refusing to operate on them and referring to a psychiatrist trained in BDD. This is one of the most common and least accurate concerns about facelift surgery that pa-tients mention to me at consultation. In point of fact nothing could be further from the truth. The most impressive clinical studies about the long-term effects of facelift surgery come from the surgical experience with identical twins. It is commonly held that identical twins will age in a very similar manner over time. When one identical twin undergoes facelift surgery of course in the short term of two to seven years thereafter the twin who had the surgery will look substantially better than the twin who did not have the surgery. That finding was expected. It is important to understand that facelift surgery does set the clock back but it does not stop the ticking. In other words facelift surgery can reverse many of the effects of aging but it cannot stop the aging process itself. Going back to the studies of identical twins researchers found that the twin who had the facelift forever looked better than the twin counterpart who did not have surgery at all. Thus even though the overall longterm results of facelift surgery will slowly diminish over time patients who do undergo facelift surgery will always look better than if they never had the facelift surgery at all. Q My sister had the fat bags under her eyelids removed via a no-scar surgery. How is that pos-sible A Q I am very embarrassed about the way my nipples stick out so far. I have to wear band-aids over them all the time. Is there anything that can be done to fix this problem A Hyper-projection of the nipples is a relatively common problem. The conclusion that the nipples stick out too far is of course a personal de- If patients have marked puffiness ( bags ) of the lower eyelids AND they do not have much in the way of loose wrinkled skin there is a way to remove the fat without the need for making an incision in the skin. Of course there must be an incision in order to access the fat and to remove it. In the appropriate patient fat can be removed from the lower eyelids by making an incision in the crease behind the eyelid (transconjunctival approach). Healing is usually very rapid because there are no visible incisions. If you have questions or would like to hear about a certain topic relating to cosmetic surgery or skin care please email your questions to Kimberly 20 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 21 Gabriella Biedinger TRAVELING THE ROAD TO HER DREAM by ann e. butenas photos by bre baszler hair and makeup by sidney le wardrobe by la pink boutique HERLIFE inspirations W hen you first meet Oakdale resident Gabriella Biedinger 28 if you sense an out-going funloving upbeat and spirited young woman please don t waver from that initial conclusion. She is all that and more. And when it comes to making a in Humphreys College in Modesto and began pursuing a degree in legal studies with the intention of advancing to law school. During her academic career she and her husband Justin welcomed a baby girl named Savanna who will turn three this year born shortly before Gabriella graduated. True to her tenacious nature Gabriella remained on full-throttle and immediately applied for the master s degree program at CSU-Stanislaus but had barely started taking classes when she had a sudden change of heart. I decided instead to apply for a job in the government sector she recalled. It was a dream job but would require a move to the Bay area. The hours would be long however keeping me away from my family. Even though she beat out 250 other applicants she still felt in her heart it was just not the right thing to do so she declined the offer. Again she stood at a crossroads and welcomed the familiar yet brief pity party. I cried for a day and felt like I had really blown it by turning down that job but my heart was just not in it she noted. Even though I had given up that opportunity and had given up the master s program I was still eager to do something. I still had that drive and was pushing myself to find what it was. I loved being a stayat-home mom but I wanted to do something more. Tapping into her life-long love of fashion and clothes she began professional name for herself driven is a way of life for her....literally. As founder and owner of La Pink Boutique the Central Valley s first fashion truck she is literally and figuratively rolling right along with her unique and inspiring business model. The road she has traveled to get to this point is replete with a few twists and turns but it has definitely taken her right where she is supposed to be. When she was just 19 years old Gabriella was forging a fastpaced career for herself in the escrow business working for a builder within a subdivision. She was thrilled to have a career she absolutely loved. After about five years however as the economy turned south and the housing market took an appreciable nosedive Gabriella was laid off from her position. She had what she described as the proverbial pity party but quickly pulled herself up by her bootstraps and told herself she had to get it together. Prior to becoming involved in real estate she had been attending school but never completed that endeavor. So she enrolled 22 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM This oneof-a-kind boutique on wheels also boasts a hot rod transmission all shiny and polished providing a striking contrast to the otherwise whimsical feminine appeal of the vehicle. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 23 to consider what that industry might hold for her. When I was a kid I would save my birthday money and buy fashion magazines and I would cut out the models in them and use them as paper dolls dressing them in clothing I would cut out of the magazines Gabriella laughed. As she began to inquire of her soul what truly made her happy she went back to the basics and just asked herself what made her spirit sing and for what she seemed to have a natural knack fashion. She decided she would open her own boutique. Well that idea was not without its challenges. The lease prices on spaces were crazy she commented. I realized that getting into something like this in a down economy was probably not the best idea. One late night while browsing the internet changed that thinking in a heartbeat. I saw an article about a truck in New York that had been converted into a store and thought that was a brilliant idea. I wondered how I could do something like that. It was fun different and certainly there was nothing like it in Central Valley except for the occasional food truck Gabriella smiled. That auspicious moment was in the spring of 2012 almost a year to the day after she had turned down the Bay area job offer. She later discovered that there was another truck in Los Angeles similar to the one in New York so she did what any eager entrepreneur would do. 24 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM She called the owners of the truck and asked them for their advice on how she could do the same thing in Central Valley. That initial contact provided her with some amazing information and insight as the two ladies who owned the truck were more than happy to share with Gabriella some pointers and advice. Three days later as Gabriella was driving through Escalon she happened to see an empty yellow electrical truck on the side of the road clearly worse for the wear. It was hideous actually she said. I pulled over and looked it over. It had a For Sale sign on it so I called the number and before I knew it I was the proud owner of that truck. Of course a few upgrades changes modifications and more were in order including changing it from a stick shift to an automatic but her initial investment of 1 700 for this 1972 Chevy Van was just the stepping stone she needed to get her new business up and running er driving With the help of a friend who works on custom hot rods the truck was fully converted and at Gabriella s request stripped of its original color and upgraded to a more suitable shade called Pink Panther a choice that was initially met with some resistance by friends and family but Gabriella knew otherwise. It was the perfect color choice she beamed. This one-of-a-kind boutique on wheels also boasts a hot rod I saw an article about a truck in New York that had been converted into a store and thought that was a brilliant idea. I wondered how I could do something like that. It was fun different and certainly there was nothing like it in Central Valley except for the occasional food truck. transmission all shiny and polished providing a striking contrast to the otherwise whimsical feminine appeal of the vehicle. After her father-in-law spent several months remodeling the inside of the truck turning it into the most fabulous and chic boutique ever seen on wheels La Pink Boutique debuted at the end of October 2012 and was met with grand applause.Once a few other kinks were worked out such as figuring out how to keep things from falling off the racks and shelves when she was driving Gabriella was ready to take the retail world by storm. Inside the truck are several racks of clothes with a few shelves sporting various accessories. There is one private fitting area too along with a full-size mirror. But most importantly despite the cozy space this fashion truck never runs out of room for good times fun and laughter. Even though it s just been a few months since La Pink Boutique has hit the streets Gabriella is busier than ever. She loves to host private parties at people s homes. She just pulls the truck up opens the door and lets the ladies go to town. Gabriella also participates in various events throughout the city such as the Wine Stroll in Lodi and she has partnered with a salon in Tracy parking her truck outside the shop on a pre-determined schedule for a few hours. For more information on La Pink Boutique visit them online at or catch all the latest news and specials on their Facebook page at lapinkboutique. You may also call 209-872-6606. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 25 With apparel that is more Los Angeles chic and somewhat outsidethe-box for Central Valley Gabriella finds she can barely keep things in stock. Her truck is filled with women s clothing handmade jewelry handmade baby items purses belts and a variety of accessories. Now that the pity parties are well behind her Gabriella enjoys hosting parties of another kind and her docket is growing daily. Of course her mom is very proud and her father who recently passed away is smiling down from Heaven for sure. When not embracing her business Gabriella loves to shop ( I get a lot of my inspiration from the malls in the Bay area. ) relax on the beach and indulge her creative side through crafts cooking and baking. Still just as the wheels on her truck keep spinning so are the ideas in her head. I am very driven and am always looking for ways to do more she noted. When your heart speaks to you listen...even if others might think you are crazy. Don t be afraid to follow your dream. I know this one is a dream come true for me. HERLIFE integrative medicine DETOXIFICATION by dr. l i sa h u n t p hoto b y daw n kel l y serious conditions such as autoimmune diseases inflammatory rheumatoid arthritis and neurological disorders such as Parkinson s and Alzheimer s. The goal of this program is to slowly and gently cleanse your body of toxins that add an extra burden so serious diseases like this can be avoided. This program should turn your liver into a healthy cleansing machine. Symptoms that may be relieved by following a detox program include digestive problems bad breath fatigue skin rashes itchy skin irritability constipation headaches joint pain and weight loss resistance. A carefully planned detox program can offer improvements including anti-aging effects clearer skin and eyes weight loss increased productivity and reduction of allergic symptoms. For more information on detoxification please visit D etoxification is the most exciting tool in natural medicine due to its simplicity low cost and superior results. It s actually fun to participate and you ll feel results almost immediately. Our bodies detoxify continuously as a natural func- tion. It s only when our detox mechanisms become overloaded that the process becomes less efficient and symptoms may occur. Toxins may be internal or external in origin. Pollution or pesticides in our food sources may put undue stress on our detox organs the kidney and liver. Improper digestion and imbalanced gut ecology provide internal forms of toxins in the way of metabolic by-products stemming from certain bacteria that have toxic side effects and therefore impact negatively on overall health by compromising detox pathways. It has been suggested that toxic overload contributes to more Dr. Lisa Hunt Lisa J. Hunt D.O. is the Medical Director of Valley Wellness Center in Modesto whose mission is to build on every level of your health to achieve the best quality of life. She is Board certified in Family Medicine and Holistic and Integrative Medicine. She specializes in anti-aging treatment natural thyroid replacement menopause andropause therapy (including bio-identical hormone replacement) strengthening the immune system neurotransmitter analysis replacement and nutritional support guidance. 26 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 27 HERLIFE cravings b y adr i an a b ro g g e r ph o t o s b y b re b a s z le r T he first official day of spring this year is March 20th. Did your heart just beat a little faster Don t worry mine did too. Because we all know what that means summer is just around the corner. So why are we talking about food Because I ve been to Greens Table and have met owner Ann Endsley. The Greens Table ap- imagine the heart and respect that goes into that process The result is easily the best French onion soup I have ever had. It s topped with a nice thick crouton and brie cheese. HEAVEN I also had a phenomenal burger. Fresh bread great beef pesticide-free veggies it was a burger plucked from the earth. That may sound silly but try it and then tell me if that description doesn t match up. The lovely aforementioned burger came with a side of homemade potato chips--delish We also indulged in some naughtier fare nutty sticky buns bright and beautiful macaroons chocolate and peanut butter mousse tasty Meyer lemon tarts luscious cr me br l es. Oh The things I do for you HerLife readers My professional assessment of the dessert offerings Mmmm Ann said We truly hand-make everything. That s hard to find in our area. We have a commitment to source locally. We think people care what s in their food. I completely agree. Lots of us do care. We want to know that our food is actually going to be good for our bodies and be the fuel we need it to be. My husband is a Cross fitter Paleo guy. He has lost 40 lbs. in six months by paying attention to what he eats and his level of physical exercise. I haven t made the commitment to be as strict as he is but I am enjoying my own improved health. Food can be good and good for you. If you have any doubt eat at Greens Table. They offer Paleo vegan gluten-free and other diet-specific foods that all taste great. For Ann Endsley the commitment to healthy eating is a lifestyle. She was diagnosed with lupus 17 years ago. I became very aware of how clean healthy eating affects us. I became more knowledgeable and I want to share that Ann said. I just believe we should eat what s being grown around us. Our bodies respond to that. I understand the health reasons for eating well. Aren t we lucky that she wants to share that with us Greens Table also offers take-away meals and specialty food and grocery items. They can host private parties and even offer evening cooking classes. Greens Central at 953 K Street in Modesto is open for those in the downtown area. Greens Table 501 Bangs Ave in Modesto is open seven days a week for breakfast and lunch. For more information about Greens Table Greens Central and Greens Catering visit online at or call them at 209-579-9090. proach to food is encouraging to all. Ann believes healthy eating promotes healthy living and stronger bodies. That translates to eating well at Greens Table and still being ready for that summer dress Located at 501 Bangs Ave. in Modesto Greens Table is an expansion of Greens Market. The new location offers more customer seating. The relocation to Bangs Avenue means there is now an on-site kitchen to prepare meals. Ultimately this means you and I can enjoy more of the scrumptious farm-to-fork food the Greens brand has become known for. When I first walked in I noticed the fresh and inviting decor. The sun was shining brightly through the big windows. It s an enjoyable environment. I love big rustic wooden tables. There are lots of those big tables at Greens Table. They silently call you to sit a while and enjoy the food. Even with the name Greens Table we want to communicate Come to our table bring your family to the table take our food back to your table. We offer that communal element that goes back to basics Ann said. If you are uninitiated to the culinary fabulousness that is Greens let me get you up to speed. The brand is committed to creating honest clean foods from scratch at an affordable price. But it s not as simple as it sounds. They actually grow most of their own produce on a massive farm and obtain additional produce from other local farms. Fresh eggs check. Fresh milk check. Grass-fed beef check. Local specialty items check. There are no preservatives canned goods or pre-made anything at Greens Table. It s just honest food that speaks for itself. My first bite of Greens food was the crazy-good French onion soup. Ann has made this recipe for many many many years. If the old adage practice makes perfect is applied here her method and recipe equal perfection. If you don t believe me taste the soup The recipe calls for a marathon three-day process. The first day is spent slow-roasting grass-fed beef bones and vegetables to make a rich dark beautiful stock. The stock cooks for an entire day is then boiled down to reduce it making it even more flavorful. Day Two is spent caramelizing onions for five to six hours and skimming fat. Finally on the third day you can make the soup Can you 28 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM My first bite of Greens food was the crazy-good French onion soup. Ann has made this recipe for many many many years. If the old adage practice makes perfect is applied here her method and recipe equal perfection. One of the Central Valley s leading proponents of all things multimedia Adriana Brogger has worked as a reporter blogger producer host emcee writer and actress performer in local media for more than ten years. She teaches Multimedia Production at San Joaquin Delta College and loves it Born in the year of the monkey Adriana has a clever wit and a magnetic personality. Seriously though she enjoys good comedy spending time with her hubby and four cute boys and of course great food. If you know of a local restaurant that would welcome a visit by Adriana please contact Kimberly Mullen at Kimberly HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 29 HERLIFE culinary MAKING A SPLENDID SPOT OF TEA b y s h e rry l. g ra n a d e r I f you ever have the opportunity to visit England or entertain someone from the UK you will soon realize that for the English tea is both a beverage and a meal. I was raised in the U.S. by parents from England and Scotland and afternoon tea was a daily ritual in our home. It was always an opportunity for my par- ents to sit down and enjoy a delicious hot cup of tea with cookies or tea sandwiches while catching up over the events of the day. Teatime is one of life s simple pleasures that help us retreat from the pressures of the outside world and simply to enjoy each other. In the 19th century Anna the seventh Duchess of Bedford created the first tea because dinner was typically served fashionably late. The British were known for eating a hearty breakfast followed by a light lunch and did not return to the dinner table for the rest of the day. The duchess would ask for a small meal to be served in her private quarters in the late afternoon eventually inviting friends over to join her. The ritual ceremony and tradition of this specialized meal are a pleasant solution to an increasingly frantic pace of today s way of life. Afternoon tea is a mini-meal consisting of sweets breads and small sandwiches plus a perfectly made hot pot of tea. High tea occurred at the end of a workday with a hearty spread of roasted meats savory pies pudding or custard and cakes. Although a traditional tea usually consists of crustless sandwiches finger foods and petit fours on a tiered stand of fine china it s a wonderful opportunity to blend familiar well-loved tea dishes with the best of contemporary cuisine. There is nothing more delightful than grazing on small bites of delicious yummy foods that incorporate non-traditional ingredients presented in unexpected ways with a great cup of tea. In some of the most lavish innovative restaurants in this country restaurants and hotels are offering afternoon tea featuring the freshest ingredients from local growers and suppliers. Sandwiches and tarts are garnished with fresh-picked produce such as raspberries strawberries enoki mushrooms kiwi and daikon sprouts. Chefs are serving grilled shrimp or fish sprinkled with colorful edible flowers. Menu offerings for afternoon tea include an international mix that reflects an increased interest in regional and ethnic foods. Teatime in the afternoon can be as simple as a great cup of tea or a multicourse meal from casual to formal for 2 persons to a crowd of 200. It can include elaborate dishes or just a cup of tea with 30 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Source Teatime Celebrations by Patricia Gentry some sweets informal sandwiches scones and muffins. A teatime meal can be flexible and reflect your personal style. Start with a freshly brewed perfect pot of tea. It doesn t matter if you pour it from a gold service set or a simple pottery teapot the result is the same mind body and spirit are renewed and refreshed. Preparing a perfect pot of tea requires brewing the tea for just the right amount of time usually three to five minutes so that tannins are not released which can make the tea taste bitter. The English have always enjoyed tea with fresh cold milk usually added to the cup first before adding the hot tea. Lemon sugar or honey is optional. Use afternoon tea to mark a celebration note the change in seasons or simply to spend time with friends or family. Expand or vary the menu depending on the type of tea or time of day. Bring the tradition of afternoon tea to your home for family and friends to enjoy. Here are directions for making a perfect pot of tea Start with cold water in a kettle and bring to a rolling boil. As soon as the water reaches the boiling point add it to the tea in a teapot. If water is boiled for too long it loses oxygen and can affect the taste of the tea. Rinse the teapot with hot water to preheat it. Do not use a metal pot made of aluminum or it will create an odd taste in the tea. Loose tea is best for the richest flavor. A good rule of thumb is one teaspoon of loose tea per cup plus one teaspoon for the pot. Pour the boiling water over the tea in the teapot and stir. Place the lid on the teapot and let stand for at least three to five minutes. Brewed teas vary in color however brewing time should be your guide not the color. To serve remove the tea bags from the pot or use a strainer to pour for each cup of tea. Bone china silver or any nonreactive material works best for tea. Cover the pot with a tea cozy to keep the remaining tea warm. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 31 HERLIFE recipes BAKED MAPLE-MUSTARD CHICKEN rec ipes and ph otograp hy b y v er y cu l i n ar y. com Serves 4 Prep time 5 minutes Cook time 40 minutes Ingredients cup Dijon mustard cup maple syrup 2 Tablespoons rice wine vinegar 1 pounds boneless skinless chicken thighs Chopped rosemary (optional) Directions 1. Preheat your oven to 450 degrees. 2. In a small bowl mix together the mustard maple syrup and rice wine vinegar. 3. Coat a 9 x 13 baking dish with cooking spray. Place chicken in a single layer and season with salt and pepper. Pour the maple mustard mixture over chicken turning the thighs in the mixture so they are fully coated. 4. Bake for 40 minutes or until a meat thermometer reads 165 F. Baste the tops of the chicken with more sauce halfway through. Let the chicken rest for 5 minutes before serving. 5. Serve over mashed potatoes and spoon extra sauce over the top. Sprinkle with some chopped fresh rosemary. 32 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM BEEF GYROS Serves 6 Prep time 20 minutes Total time 30 minutes Ingredients cup plain yogurt cup chopped cucumber 1 Tablespoon chopped onion teaspoon chopped fresh mint teaspoon salt 1 pound sirloin cut into thin one-inch strips 2 teaspoons Greek seasoning 1 Tablespoon vegetable oil 6 soft pita breads warmed 1 cup cherry tomatoes quartered 1 large cucumber julienned Lettuce leaves (optional) Directions 1. For the sauce combine yogurt chopped cucumber onion mint and salt in a medium bowl. Set aside. 2. Toss sirloin with the Greek seasoning. In a large skillet heat oil over medium-high. Add sirloin and cook stirring about 3 minutes or until cooked through. 3. Divide sirloin strips among the warmed pitas. Top with tomato cucumber and lettuce (if using). Drizzle the sauce over the top. Serve immediately. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 33 HERLIFE wine FRENCH WINE AND CHEESES b y s he rry l. g ra na d e r N othing goes together better than French food and wine a combination rooted in the tradition of savory flavors paired with the perfect wine for an incredible meal. The French are notorious for enjoying a glass of wine with meals something that is often enjoyed on a daily basis for a little bit of luxury. Here are some suggestions to consider when creating French foods Sauternes with bleu cheese. Chardonnay with chicken scallops lobster and brie. Sauvignon Blanc with shrimp acidic pork oysters and whitefish. Pinot Noir with salmon fatty fish and duck. Zinfandel or red white Burgundy with turkey pheasant and quail. Red Bordeaux with lamb. Beaujolais with traditional pork. Cabernet Sauvignon with beef venison and grilled meat. Burgundy with braised meat and game. Of course champagne goes well with everything from appetizers to desserts. The pleasure of sipping wine enhances the dining experience whether in France or anywhere in the world. The rule of drinking red wine with meat or white wine with seafood or chicken dishes has gone by the wayside. Simply enjoy your favorite wine with French food for a special meal and forget the strict guidelines. The secret is to understand the basics of wine tasting for pairing a variety of wine with food especially French food. Here are some factors to consider when choosing wines. Aroma the bouquet of the wine is how it smells when poured into a glass. It can be nutty floral earthy or fruity to name a few. Sometimes the bouquet can be a combination of aromas that create a wonderful wine. in Julia Child s cookbook Mastering The Art Of French Cooking. It is truly a delightful movie. If you have the opportunity to visit France it is impossible to avoid the endless window displays of mouth-watering sweet delights and pastries. The French love to eat desserts after lunch dinner or simply enjoy Acid wine offers sharp and sour notes that determine the level of acidity. Think of biting into a sour apple and how that feels on your tongue. Body can be light heavy or creamy when you taste it and is really a matter of personal taste and opinion. Flavor aromas determine the flavor of the wine. For example a nutty aroma in a wine often develops into a chocolate-coffee note of flavor. The aroma and flavor are closely related. Even though the rules of pairing wines with French food may sound complicated it is much easier than you think. A good rule of thumb is to pair a wine with food that matches its intensity and flavor. For example a spicy white wine goes well with a flavorful chicken dish and a strong fullbodied red wine goes well with steak in a decadent sauce. Julia Child has shared the splendor of French food in this country through her extensive cookbooks and cooking shows bringing hard work and delicious creativity and fun to every endeavor. The movie Julie and Julia documents her start in the cooking profession in France with Child played by Meryl Streep. Child s story is intertwined with that of blogger Julie Powell who decides to spice up her uneventful life as she challenges herself to cook all 524 recipes 34 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM them in the afternoon. Among the most popular desserts are French fruit tarts beignets or a doughnut filled with comfiture a confection fruit or jam. Try them all. To create the best meals in French cooking it is important to use the freshest ingredients available. The best food in France can be found in restaurants using local ingredients that are in season and cooked to perfection. The best French cooking is regional so when traveling through France find a restaurant that serves local produce. Southern France features foods cooked in olive oil fresh tomatoes and other flavors of the Mediterranean. The area of Normandy offers dishes cooked in butter and cream. Sauces are made with wines from the area for a local flavor whether it is meaty stew or a light delicate dish. Pairing food and wine is like a good marriage as each strengthens and enhances the other for an amazing dining experience. The best match is what pleases your palate based on your personal preferences. There are no rules to follow when choosing your favorite wines and recipes. Enjoy the wide variety of flavors and aromas of different wines keeping in mind that the food can both complement and contradict your wine selections. However if a dish is light in nature then a white wine usually goes well with the flavors while a steak and potato dish does well with a fullbodied red wine. However it still boils down to personal preference. Enjoy French food and wine whenever you have the opportunity. Bon app tit Source The Joy Of Eating French Food Great French Dishes Made Easy by Renny Darling HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 35 HERLIFE spotlight b y a nn e . b u t e na s p h o t o s by k ris t o ff e r h e a c o x le m o nb re a d p h otogr a phy G oing to the dentist can actually be a fun and exciting thing to do especially if you are a patient of Dr. William Huiras DDS. When you make an appointment with this experienced knowledgeable and above all compassionate dentist you can put your fears and anxieties aside and rest in the comfort of knowing that you are in the best of hands when it comes to your complete oral health care and your smile. Dr. Huiras interest in his profession grew naturally out of his innate desire to help others. He enjoys spending time with each of his patients ensuring their dental care needs are met comfortably in an honest and completely professional environment. A graduate of Cal Poly San Luis Obispo Dr. Huiras subsequently completed his dental training at the Dental School at the University of California at San Francisco from which he graduated in 1992. Since that time he has continued to advance his education through his affiliation with various study clubs and professional associations including the Pride Institute the ADA the CDA the Seattle Study Club and the Academy of General Dentistry. It is important to me to keep on top of all the latest techniques and treatments available in our industry and I strive to find ways to incorporate those into my practice with the patient s best interest in mind offering only what has proven to be effective and efficient he Dr. William Huiras DDS 36 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM noted. It is important to me to provide the best care possible. As a general dentist practicing in his hometown of Lodi Dr. Huiras provides every type of dental service including preventive dental care extractions implants whitening bonding crowns bridges fillings and laser dentistry and works with patients of all ages. Although he does not provide any orthodontics he hopes to do so in the future. That is my next challenge he smiled true to his commitment to always remain an eager student of the profession as well as a dedicated clinician. For those cases where perhaps a specialist is required Dr. Huiras relies upon a strong network of trusted practitioners to whom he can confidently refer his patients. I have the ability to offer what modern technology can offer but I do refer patients to certain specialists as the need arises when I feel that the case would be better treated through such a referral he emphasized. More than anything Dr. Huiras and his staff endeavor to make each visit to the office a fun educational and positive experience and that is especially true for those patients just getting a firm grasp on the benefits of obtaining exceptional dental care. We have parents bring in their children to see us who are as young as two years of age explained Dr. Huiras. At that age however it is more of a show and tell experience where we teach them about dental health. We also talk to the parents about good habits for home dental care and helping the child keep healthy teeth and gums. Parents will also love the fact that modern technology allows Dr. Huiras to catch cavities early and by using an air abrasion machine decay can be easily removed without pain to the child and no injections are necessary to numb the area. And for patients who still have some anxieties about going to the dentist Dr. Huiras does offer sedation dentistry either administered orally or inhaled allowing the patient to relax safely and comfortably while the necessary procedures can be accomplished. Dr. Huiras also extends his arm of service to more than just his patients. His commitment to serving others can also be seen in any Parents will also love the fact that modern technology allows Dr. Huiras to catch cavities early and by using an air abrasion machine decay can be easily removed without pain to the child and no injections are necessary to numb the area. number of his volunteer efforts in the community. I belong to a network of dentists and dental labs that twice each year provides services on a pro bono basis to individuals who are disabled physically and or mentally he commented. It is such a rewarding feeling to be able to help these people who might not otherwise receive the dental care they need. Dr. Huiras is also a keen educator and makes it a point to discuss each treatment and case thoroughly with patients before they undergo any treatments. We have a very traditional style of dental care here. This is not a clinic. I like to spend time with my patients and really do enjoy that person-to-person interaction smiled Dr. Huiras. Of course Dr. Huiras stands firmly on the foundation of good preventive oral care and recommends that patients receive a routine cleaning and dental exam every six months. For those who have moderate to severe gum disease he suggests they come in more often as such individuals can be susceptible to additional dental problems. For more information on Dr. Huiras visit him at 322 West Lodi Avenue Lodi call him at 209-333-8016 or go online at HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 37 HERLIFE trendsetter DEFINE CLOTHING mchenry village 54 modesto (209) 545-2885 photography by dee yates styling by liz rose kramer hair and makeup by melissa holter and jessica van ruiten of perfect balance day spa models tilly andrade and diane boyd shot on location at oak farm vineyards lodi 38 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 39 40 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 41 42 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 43 HERLIFE mother s perspective MAKING MUSIC WITH YOUR CHILDREN by hea t h er l . n obl e ph . d. points for elementary school-age children who attend weekly music lessons. Their minds are stimulated for curiosity and the enjoyment of learnou do what you can to encourage children to eat healthy foods and have a balanced diet. After all today s food choices foster growth for the days weeks and even years to come. Feeding the mind is equally important and research has repeatedly shown that music is a powerful fuel source for ing. Studies in neuroscience have evidenced that children who participate in learning and making music have larger development in neural activity as compared to others who do not train in music. Inherently if you are creating music this activity requires greater use of the brain. So extensive neural circuits are built fine-tuned and repeatedly used. Music also provides ample opportunity to build and practice concentration and memory. Music training requires an adept focus for learning creating and appreciating all the sounds made. Sounds are then stored in memory and recalled at later times such as the lyrics or melody of a song. There is ample opportunity to practice effective memory storage and retrieval. The intellectual skills used for music transfer to many achievementrelated skills as well. The understanding of music assists children to consider how many pieces fit together to form a whole and how multistep problems might be examined and pieced together to find solutions. These are required skills for the academic arena including mathematics engineering science the arts and working with computers. Music is of value at any age. The key to including it in children s lives and having it benefit them is to be mindful of any and all expectations for those involved. There is a growing amount of evidence that birth to age nine is an optimal window of opportunity for develop- Y children with countless benefits reaching into adulthood. For many children music is a point of entry into the world of sounds which ultimately leads to language development. When children hear music they try to decode the sounds and words. The left side of the brain is stimulated which is directly involved in processing language. The brain s circuits are then wired to reflect the variety of sounds encountered in addition to supporting the child s flexibility with self-expression skills. A child learns how intonation rhythm and volume vary. These skills are foundational for social competence. Music is also an appropriate outlet for emotion. Children learn how to express themselves through creating their own music in addition to understanding others emotions when listening to others creations. Children then appreciate the value for communication both expressive and receptive. Listening skills are especially valuable for discerning others emotional states from their speech and any other sounds they might choose to make. Music is then known as a tool to convey emotion but also it can be appreciated as a powerful method for impacting others emotions. It can lift one s spirits or calm one s fears. Some research studies have actually measured an increase in IQ 44 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM ing musical appreciation and skills. During this time children s mental capacities are ripe for such opportunities. Infants can first be exposed to music by way of their parents who hum and sing while swaying and swinging the baby to soothe. Musical games might be incorporated and simple instruments that are purchased or homemade can be explored. Simple routines such as bath time could be accompanied by a created song with the child s name included. Musical expertise is not necessary--simply the enjoyment of music is of value. Parents can serve as role models for enjoying the The intellectual skills used for music transfer to many achievementrelated skills as well. The understanding of music assists children to consider how many pieces fit together to form a whole and how multi-step problems might be examined and pieced together to find solutions. process by singing and dancing. As children become toddlers they are increasingly able to identify beats and melodies along with instruments. Informally children can be encouraged to choose songs of their liking for listening alternated with parents or others also choosing songs for variety. This also might be an appropriate time for attending classes. Programs to explore include Kindermusik and Gymboree classes. By age five children are increasingly adept at following formalized lessons. Nevertheless likely through this age the overarching expectations should continue to be greater exposure to and understanding of music rather than honing any particular skill. By about ages six through ten children have developed greater physical strength and stamina. Skill development with a particular instrument may take a focus. At this time the goal of any music lessons may shift from simply exposure to actually improving performance ability. Regardless of how involved children may become with creating their own music many benefits come from having access to a wide variety of tunes. Parents can be a powerful part of the learning process attending concerts with families and discussing tastes for different artists and genres. Just as you wouldn t want a child eating peanut butter and jelly sandwiches at all meals ensure variety in music. Serve up a buffet of different rhythms tonalities keys and cultures to best nurture development. Sources and HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 45 HERLIFE working women MATCHING A CAREER TO YOUR PERSONALITY I 46 b y h e a t h e r n o b le p h . d . s your work a source of satisfaction and fulfillment or does it feel more like a drain on you that you dread If you work full time you spend more than 2 000 hours a year doing it. Since work takes up so much of your time there is value to carefully considering what kind of work will truly bring you joy. People who feel the most art. Some careers that best fit such interests include composer writer interior decorator editor and actor actress. Careers that are less likely to appeal entail routine and rule-following. You will not likely be content long-term by sitting behind a desk and doing clerical work. Consider being practical following rules and having concrete accomplishments and enjoying physical activity. Is that for you If so do you also have mechanical abilities and enjoy using tools Some occupations that match this personality include carpenter truck driver mechanic farmer and electrician. This kind of work places less emphasis upon interacting with others and in fact socializing may be less than appealing to you anyway. Are you analytical scholarly and intellectually-driven with a passion for in-depth learning through reading studying and investigating In other words if given the choice would you like to be a perpetual student If so you might enjoy using your scientific and mathematical skills for trouble-shooting in addition to relishing how you create and apply your knowledge. Careers to top your list include biologist chemist physicist psychologist and medical technologist. You are less inclined to enjoy fulfilled are doing work that matches the unique traits of their personality. Do what you enjoy and what comes naturally but also importantly try to avoid or at least minimize the kinds of work that will inherently be an uphill battle for you. It is true that some occupations are much better suited for you than others. One way to consider this further is through a popular and wellfounded theory that matches careers with personality types developed by the late psychologist Dr. John Holland. He identified six categories or types and as you read each one described below consider whether one or more of these fit your personality. Are you known for your creativity imagination and self-expression If you appreciate aesthetics and originality you may also have a passion for working with music writing performance and other forms of HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM seek and attain goals for personal and organizational success. Seen by Since work takes up so much of your time there is value to carefully considering what kind of work will truly bring you joy. People who feel the most fulfilled are doing work that matches the unique traits of their personality. persuading others or selling them things. These factors may actually run counter to your personality. Do you view yourself as empathic helpful patient and sociable Maybe you find it fulfilling if not essential to your well-being to interact with and serve the needs of others through a helping teaching or counseling role. If humanitarianism is a value inherent to you occupations for consideration include teacher counselor clergy member or being a treatment provider in the medical or mental health field. Watch out for work that entails mechanical or technical skills. This is less likely your cup of tea. It s also possible you are sociable but with a penchant for persuading or directing others. You have natural skills in leading others to others as responsible and taking appropriate and calculated risks you know how to apply your shrewd and ambitious traits. Careers that might match include attorney business executive salesperson manager television producer and sports promoter. On the flipside scientific inquiry and learning are less likely to appeal so there may be no need to ensure it has any part in the work you do. How about deriving satisfaction from following orderly routines and meeting clear standards Have others ever said you are efficient conscientious practical and highly dependable If so you might enjoy utilizing clerical skills or working with information or office equipment to meet specific standards. Corresponding occupations include bookkeeper stenographer financial analyst banker tax expert clerk or production editor. What to avoid Work with unclear directions and expectations because that runs counter to your grain. So what do you think Do any of these descriptions fit for you It may be helpful to keep in mind that your work is not likely to fulfill all of your unique needs and desires and in that case it s also helpful to consider what you do with your interests activities and hobbies outside of work. Be social engage in self-expression do something requiring orderliness enjoy learning something new take on a leadership role or do something hands-on outdoors Sources HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 47 HERLIFE finance SITES AND APPS TO HELP YOU SAVE CASH b y lis a t a ra n t o b u t le r CHEAP CHIC echnology is ever-evolving at a Google Fiber pace. Faster and better rapid innovation is leaving old school shopping in the dust. Can you even remember the last time you thumbed through a phone book to search for a plumber or walked inside a bank to make a deposit These days You don t have to be a super techie or T 48 mobile and media devices allow us to do our business at the touch of our fingertips. But with the economy still uneasy savvy shoppers want to make sure they are saving money as well mastering their devices. professional tweeter to discover great deals through websites and apps. Everything from retail sales to reward apps can be found quickly and easily with just a few clicks. Here are some smartphone ideas and laptop sites that keep the cash in your pocket and great deals coming to your door. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Shop Savvy Try this barcode scanner to find the best deals either online or at your local stores. Not only will you see price comparisons but deals can be bought just by clicking on retailers links like Target Walmart and Best Buy. To test the app go to a retail outlet scan the barcode of a product you re considering and then compare prices to other local stores. If the price is cheaper online click your phone and have it delivered to your door. The app also features a wish list that tracks favorite products and reviews from other customers. This fairly new source for online discounts coupons and promotional codes is earning points with coupon clipping shoppers everywhere. Look for codes of participating retailers on the RetailMeNot website and simply enter the code when checking out online to get the savings instantly. Search for coupons by favorite retailer or item. Sign up for email alerts to get the latest scoop and coupon notifications. Not only will you see price comparisons but deals can be bought just by clicking on retailers links like Target Walmart and Best Buy. To test the app go to a retail outlet scan the barcode of a product you re considering and then compare prices to other local stores. If you like you are not considered a cheapskate but a cheapist--a much more flattering term coined by the site for someone who likes to save money. As a result of practicing cheapism regularly cheapists manage to save their money to use for other purposes. Cheap is Chic at where consumers can buy goods and services at a relatively low cost compared to other sources. Sign up and the site will do a lot of work for you including identifying all the cheap products you are interested in researching must have features reading product performance reviews and telling you where to buy the goods. We may be living in uncertain financial times but most of us still want the best available products in our specific budget and this site seems to answer the call. Continued on page 50 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 49 A personal finance site that provides guidance on everything from saving on your monthly water bill to scoring the best deals on pet food offers financial help with saving spending investing and planning. Easy-to-follow tips on its website Facebook page and Twitter account make saving cash easy to follow and simple enough for just about anyone to see success. A personal finance site that provides guidance on everything from saving on your monthly water bill to scoring the best deals on pet food offers financial help with saving spending investing and planning. Key Ring Apps make the world go round and what better way to conquer the world than to save money with a hip free app. Try Key Ring for your Android iPhone iPad or Blackberry to save some cash and free up space on your key chain. Say goodbye to carrying those annoying little plastic loyalty cards. Key Ring lets you store the information on your phone rather than clunking up your purse or pocket. Getting rewarded for shopping at your favorite stores is as easy as taking a photo of your ID number or just entering the digits on your phone and saving the information to your app. CardStar Show your devotion to your most adored merchants by putting all of your loyalty cards in the palm of your hand. CardStar is another simple and free app that is available for most smartphones. By reading the barcodes on your cards and storing them safely and easily on your phone you can leave the checkout counter without ever having to search and fumble for your plastic cards. CardStar also notifies you of special deals and sales at your favorite retailers and gives you the scoop on available coupons. You don t have to be a web developer to develop a crush on deal-saving apps and websites. Easy to use and easy on the pocketbook you ll be a savvy shopper (and a little richer) just by picking up the phone. Sources and 50 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM DOWNTOWN L O D I BUSINESS PARTNERSHIP HERLIFE green living MEMBERSHIP IN A COMMUNITY SUPPORTED AGRICULTURE (CSA) by k a th l een m. kr ueger A s food prices climb and families become more concerned with the impact of their eating habits on the environment the Community Supported Agriculture (CSA) movement is skyrocketing in popularity. CSA shares make it significantly easier for families to eat local genetically unmodi- member that you re not contracting to buy a specified amount of a particular product with your contributions. In most cases the farmers themselves will put together the CSA boxes that go out for pickup so you ll be receiving what s in season among the crops that have done well. Droughts and other unforeseeable environmental conditions may affect the viability of certain crops which will affect your farm s ability to supply those items. Many farms also require shareholders or members to help either with weeding and planting duties or with the gathering and distribution of produce during the harvest. fied food while making a commitment to sustainability and green living. For some households the idea of CSA shares is appealing but confusion regarding how the process works is enough to deter them from joining in. What is a CSA Membership When you join a CSA collective or purchase a membership from a local farm you ll almost always be entering into a shared risk and reward agreement. When you purchase a share you ll be agreeing to accept the weekly bounty whether it s great or small. Your CSA farmer will send what is in season and ripe--very rarely do CSA shares entitle a member to a specified weight or amount of food. You re contributing directly to the budget of the farm as a whole and reaping the rewards in terms of fresh wholesome and usually organic produce. Because contributions from CSA shareholders allow farmers to concentrate their time and effort on producing high-quality crops rather than financing and marketing during the busy harvest season small independent farms are able to sustain themselves. Before entering into a CSA agreement it s important to re52 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM How Do I Get My Food In most cases CSA farmers will designate one drop-off point for everyone or invite shareholders to pick up their own boxes at the farm. Very rarely do farmers deliver boxes straight to shareholders homes due to both time constraints and the costs related to maintaining full delivery routes on a weekly basis. Learning to Eat Seasonally Transitioning from buying the bulk of your produce in the grocery store year-round to working with what s seasonal and on hand in your CSA box can be a challenge for some families especially those who have never eaten seasonally before. Your CSA box won t have squash in June because squash isn t actually in season so early. Being able to buy any vegetable or fruit item you like at the grocery store regardless of season is a possibility because those items aren t grown locally may be genetically modified and are rarely organic. Your CSA box may also contain produce items that you re unfamiliar with meaning that you ll have the opportunity to expand your food preparation horizons in order to make use of some of the things in your share each week. not receive apples peaches or other orchard fruits at all. Your CSA share helps you to eat local in-season produce more easily but won t eliminate the necessity of shopping for food at the market. Many of the families that find a CSA arrangement disappointing do so because they have slightly unrealistic expectations at the outset. It s also important to remember that your first few CSA boxes will come in the late spring or early summer meaning that they ll initially be filled with lighter fare. Peas baby beets radishes and salad greens make up the bulk of most early-season boxes with the heavier squash potatoes and broccoli crops coming in late in the season. Don t be surprised to find your first few boxes filled mostly with green items. When a CSA arrangement is approached realistically it can be a wonderfully rewarding experience. Food will come to your table at the absolute peak of freshness after being grown in organic conditions without genetic modification or resulting from questionable farming practices. Children in the family can visit the farm and help during volunteer hours allowing them to gain a greater understanding of farming and food production while learning to try new foods with an open mind. The best way to ensure that your CSA experience is a positive one is to talk to the farmer. Most understand that inexperienced newcomers aren t sure of what to expect and are happy to answer any questions you may have and give you advice. Your CSA box may also contain produce items that you re unfamiliar with meaning that you ll have the opportunity to expand your food preparation horizons in order to make use of some of the things in your share each week. Be Realistic If you purchase the right share to accommodate your family s eating habits you should have enough food each week for several meals. However you almost certainly won t have enough fruit to meet recommended daily allowances especially if you have growing children. Some CSA farms don t cultivate tree fruits so you may Sources for this article are and HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 53 HERLIFE prime ESSENTIALS FOR ESTATE PLANNING AND PLANNED GIVING A b y c a nd i s m it h s you approach the autumn of your lifetime you should begin to put your financial affairs in order to ensure that you provide for your loved ones you leave behind. However you also might consider a legacy of giving so you can keep on changing the lives of others in society long after you ve passed. case of terminal illness. A Financial Power of Attorney delegates a person to manage your financial assets (those titled in your name including retirement plans) in the instance that you are either deceased or have been declared mentally unable to make decisions on your own. It can also be used to move monies into a Revocable Living Trust if you are incapacitated before the trust has been fully funded. There are two forms of Financial Power of Attorney Durable (which goes into effect immediately upon your signature) and Springing (which goes into effect after you ve been declared mentally incapacitated). Trust-based estates are bound by a Revocable Living Trust which contains detailed instructions covering three important phases of your life what happens when you are alive and well what happens if you become mentally incapacitated and what happens after you die. By putting your assets into a Revocable Living Trust you avoid having them tied up in probate court (a process where your state court system determines how your assets will be divided). For will-based estates a Last Will and Testament contains detailed instructions for how to handle your assets upon your death. And if you have minor children it will also contain provisions for designating a guardian. For trust-based estates a Pour Over Will acts as a safety net for any assets that you might have missed when you were setting up your trust. It doesn t contain much detail since your main instructions are contained in your Revocable Living Trust. You may also consider setting up planned giving usually done to benefit a nonprofit organization. Planned giving (also known as deferred giving or gift planning) allows you to leave money assets to a nonprofit First when it comes to estate planning there are a few must-have documents you should establish to ensure that your financial and personal wishes are conveyed. According to Julie Garber an experienced estate planning attorney and co-author of Estate Planning Strategies Collective Wisdom Proven Techniques there are five essential documents that provide an organized approach for dealing with your assets if you die or are mentally incapacitated. She recommends you find an attorney in your state versed specifically in estate planning law. There are two basic types of estate planning--will-based and trustbased. Both estates should be covered by an Advanced Medical Directive Living Will and Financial Power of Attorney. Additionally will-based estates should have a Last Will and Testament while trust-based estates should have a Pour Over Will and Revocable Living Trust. An Advanced Medical Directive (sometimes known as a Medical Power of Attorney) gives authority either to a guardian conservator or health care agent to make medical decisions if you are declared mentally incapacitated and unable to make those decisions on your own. A Living Will provides written instructions to a health care agent about whether or not you want life-sustaining procedures if you have been diagnosed with a terminal illness or are in a vegetative state. It also instructs family members on how to manage your quality of life in 54 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM upon your death or to invest money so that you receive benefits during your life and then bequeath the remaining funds to the nonprofit after your death. Most nonprofits have a planned giving department that can help you with either of these options which also can help offset your tax liability each year. Additionally authors Charles Bronfman and Jeffrey Solomon suggest in their book The Art of Giving Where the Soul Meets a Business Plan that donors consider ways to help that leverage their contributions for greater impact. Some of the key ways they believe a donor can accelerate their planned gifts is by supporting advocacy (funding some measure that has long-range goals with major impact such as societal changes) targeting a gift to support marketing (which is a much-needed component of a nonprofit to reach new supporters donors and clients and can be very powerful in that it might actually generate many times its cost in new revenue) supporting infrastructure (where your gift enhances the capabilities of an organization to do its job more effectively such as new computers database management etc.) and funding a prize (a very popular way to stimulate research or spur innovation by offering fellowships and grants to people in the field who show the promise of great societal contributions and creativity). By planning how your money will be used now you leave a legacy of thoughtfulness that will always be remembered. Sources Hospice of San Joaquin 3888 Pacific Avenue Stockton CA 95204 or online at & and Hospice of San joaquin WORLD OF WONDERS SCIENCE MUSEUM PRESENTED BY THE Dust off yer cowboy boots don your cowpoke attire and wander over to enjoy wagon rides a chuck wagon BBQ a raffle and live auction This fundraiser is for folks 21 and older TICKETS AVAILABLE AT World of Wonders Museum 2 North Sacramento Street Lodi CA 95240 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 55 HERLIFE home HEAPIN HELPIN OF HOSPITALITY by c handr a blackwel l CREATING A GREAT GUEST ROOM the difference is all in the details. The things you choose mostly depend on how much you enjoy having overnight guests--and how long you want them to stay. The Basics (For the One-Night Host) Aside from a bed there are a few basic items that will make sure your guests feel comfortable in your home. You may choose to have towels set aside specifically for guests or provide their bath time provisions from your own stock. But at any rate towels that are clean and do not double as sandpaper should suffice. Have an ample stock of bathroom basics. There s nothing worse than running out of toilet paper--except for running out of someone else s toilet paper. Make sure your guests have plenty as well as a handy supply of other staples such as tissues cotton swabs etc. Chances that a guest will forget his or her toothbrush are slim--but there is still a chance so it couldn t hurt to keep a spare handy (it s a great use for the freebies you get from the dentist). In the rare event of a forgotten toothbrush I 56 you ll be the hero. And while it s true that almost everyone these days t usually starts with a futon. The simple no-frills means of providing overnight accommodations for visiting friends is both affordable and functional (it s a sofa and a bed ). Once upon a time its presence in your living room was your fledgling foray into Adult Living. From there maybe you moved to a Jennifer Convertible sleeps with a smartphone on the nightstand it s still a good idea to have an alarm clock in the room in case the phone battery doesn t make it through the night. And some guests do prefer more old school methods of making sure they get up on time (but you have our permission to draw the line at providing a live rooster). (mine was red) and then to the next level of adulthood a spare room that served to give your sleepover guests the privacy of a closed door while also serving as your home office weight room craft room. Then one day it happened--you moved from Adulthood Lite into full-on grown-up mode as evidenced by one key accoutrement in your life a fully dedicated guest room. But there are guest rooms and then there are guest rooms and HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM The Three-Star (For the Three-Night Host) If you still consider guests enjoyable after the first day and want to up the ante a little you can include (in addition to the amenities listed above) some nice homey touches that invite them to linger for a couple more days. Consider leaving a small carafe filled daily with fresh water (add cucumber or lemon slices for an added spa-like Since airplane travel doesn t provide much in the way of sustenance these days it s a nice idea to have some snacks awaiting the arrival of your visitors. A simple cheese and fruit tray or a plate of fresh-baked cookies will instantly make them glad they came. touch) on the nightstand. Gone are the times when people traveled by wagon for days on end and arrived weary dusty and starving. Since airplane travel doesn t provide much in the way of sustenance these days it s a nice idea to have some snacks awaiting the arrival of your visitors. A simple cheese and fruit tray or a plate of fresh-baked cookies will instantly make them glad they came. As valiantly as a host may strive to make a guest feel at home it s harder to convince a guest s psyche that it s at home and psyches tend to cause insomnia. In that event supplying a variety of magazines is always nice if only because it keeps sleepless guests entertained sufficiently to avoid waking you up at 2 00 a.m. to play Crazy Eights. Puttin on the Ritz (For the Stay-Awhile Host) If you so love having houseguests that people affectionately call you Five-Star you ve got luxury linens fluffy pillows and cozy atmosphere down pat. But here are a few additional ideas to keep your guests coming back. Though humankind has bravely soldiered through the last decade s crackdown on carry-on liquids even the most seasoned traveler surely harbors occasional fantasies about arriving at a magical place where all grooming needs are anticipated. You can make those dreams come true by assembling a basket of bathing and hand washing supplies that will keep your guests feeling clean happy and loved. Nothing says I m glad you re here like loungewear. A cozy robe awaiting your guest s arrival is the ultimate in VIP treatment--that is unless you re willing to throw in a massage and a pedicure. Take your welcome snacks to the next level by equipping your guest room with a fridge full of goodies for a midnight snackstravaganza (drinks fruits sandwiches and bon bons) without the exorbitant fees of a hotel fridge. Although your guests will probably sleep like babies in the comfort of your luxurious accommodations it never hurts to ensure a peaceful night with the soothing sounds of a rainforest babbling brook or rolling sea using a white noise machine. Throw in a sleep mask and bedtime tea hot chocolate service and your houseguests may turn into roommates. Lastly don t forget a comment card because how else will you improve your service Happy Hosting HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 57 HERLIFE travel HOW TO GET AWAY ON A SMALL Choose your Destination Wisely Tucson-based travel industry insider Kimberly Schmitz suggests paying attention to the time of year you want to get away. Travel to your favorite destination off-season she said. Resorts like the WestinTM La Paloma in Tucson often offer amazing deals to attract off-season visitors. Additionally there are shorter waits for things like room service restaurant seating and cabs. The beautiful thing is that the scenery and cultural experiences are still there no matter the season. Kimberly also suggested following visitors bureaus and resorts in your destination cities on Facebook and Twitter. There are often amazing deals on rooms and attractions posted there she said. BUDGET b y beth bl ai r desired getaways. The magic key is creative planning. Eat Smartly When you arrive in a city stop at a local grocery and pick up water snacks and even quick breakfast foods said Kimberly. Most resorts will have refrigerators to store perishables. Another cash-saving trick is to avoid trendy restaurants said Gail Leicht creator of A better choice is to find the places that are tried and true and that are unique to a particular city someplace that the locals love and frequent. For example in San P aying attention to our budget is an important part of household management. However just because funds are limited doesn t mean you have to skip your much-needed and Francisco locals love to grab lunch at Swan Oyster Depot a neighborhood seafood joint. It s not fancy and it s not trendy but it s good food. And it s a great way to get to know San Francisco and eat where the locals eat. And the best part Grabbing a handful of fresh-from-the-bay oysters is a relatively cheap lunch compared to sitting down at one of the more touristy establishments. Barbara Weibel of spends her life traveling on a small budget and considers herself to be a frugal traveler. Whether I am staying in a hostel a guesthouse or an apartment rental rather than eating out at pricey restaurants I try to prepare my own food as much as possible. My staples are fresh fruit and yogurt for breakfast plus fresh baked bread avocado tomato cheese lettuce pesto and pasta and or rice which provides for two or three days of dinners. While I do some shopping in grocery stores I find that real bargains are more likely to be found at the fresh markets especially night markets which offer specialties such as marinated olives or sun-dried tomatoes to prepare pasta or rice in a multitude of ways. Barbara continued I m just finishing up three months in France and Spain which was a challenge budget-wise. However I ve discovered ways to eat cheaply but well by frequenting the bakeries (boulangeries in France and panaderias in Spain). Both have cheap eats in the form of quiche or pies that resemble deep-dish pizza. Two slices each around 2 more than fill me up and there are endless varieties from which to choose such as eggplant broccoli and onion leek olive etc. Airfare Advice Gail Leicht also suggested checking out alternate airports for better fares. For example most people think O Hare when flying to Chicago. In actuality Midway is the better choice. It s closer to downtown and because it caters to smaller airlines there are better fares to be found. 58 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM If you re thinking about crossing the Atlantic Gail reveals one of her favorite websites. In Europe I ve discovered the website Skypicker (en. which monitors the cheapest fares around Europe on a daily basis allowing me to make last-minute plans. I put in my current location and a date range and it shows me all the places in Europe I can fly for very low fares. I can also add a specific destination if I choose which can be a country rather than a city. Alternative Lodging While hotels seem like the natural place to stay on a trip think outside the hotel room. Barbara opts for dorm-style hostels. I look for two-person dorm rooms that allow me to pay for one bed. Most hostels offering this configuration also have larger dorm rooms and they tend to fill the rooms with more beds first as guests who opt for dorms with eight or ten beds always expect to share. Unless the hostel books up for the night I often end up with a private room. Another suggestion is a home swap said Sara Tetreault creator of the website You can stay for free in a home with a kitchen and even trade cars. You can cook pack picnics or bring food and those are also big money savers. Her family has swapped homes eight times-- four in the U.S. and four in Europe. You live like a local and have a place to do your laundry too Sources and BE RECOGNIZED BE ENTERTAINING BE COMFORTABLE BELONG. FIND OUT WHAT SENIOR LIVING WAS MEANT TO BE Dale Commons Independent and Assisted Living Community The Commons on T hornton Independent Assisted Living and Memory Care Community The Commons Independent Assisted Living and Memory Care Community at Union Ranch 2241 N. Union Road Manteca CA 95336 209.463.9100 3900 Dale Road Modesto CA 95356 209.526.2053 10711 Thornton Road Stockton CA 95209 209.476.1500 RCFE 507004998 RCFE 397005021 RCFE 397004959 Welcome to comfortable elegant surroundings. Welcome to a level of service so extraordinary it has a name WESTclass. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 59 HERLIFE spotlight THE ON THORNTON b y an n e. bu ten as p hotos b y k ris t o ff e r he a c o x le m o n b re a d p ho t o g ra p hy R etirement. It s not just another phase in life. It s the glorious afternoon of life where you discover once again who you are what inspires you and how you can inspire others. It s the continuing journey through which you create the desired story of your life. The Commons on Thornton un- to continually endeavor to meet their needs. Our entire staff and management team are fully committed to make every day special for our residents. At The Commons on Thornton our focus is fully on our residents and giving them the choices they desire for the quality of life they deserve. The Commons on Thornton readily accommodates up to 128 residents which also includes their attached memory care community called Renaissance. Residents can choose from a variety of studio one bedroom and two bedroom apartments which they may furnish and decorate to reflect their own personal tastes and lifestyle. In addition to the affordable elegance found at The Commons on Thornton residents enjoy three chef-prepared meals daily chosen from a mouth-watering menu of delectable delights. From cheeseburgers to pork chops with saut ed apples or roasted turkey with cranberry sauce or the incredible catch of the day no detail is overlooked when it comes to presenting unique and savory culinary delights on a daily basis. Served in a restaurant-style setting complete with white linen table cloths and fullytrained servers dining at The Commons is like a five-star experience each and every meal. There is also a cozy country kitchen where fresh fruit popcorn and derstands this and recognizes that no one has to grow older. They can simply grow better. This decidedly unique and state-of-the-art assisted senior living center in Stockton established in 2004 is an exciting oasis of fun laughter good times and unexpected surprises it s the place where even the most ordinary of moments can be redefined as extraordinary events. It s your home. It s your family. It s where life takes center stage with you as the star. According to Marie Arbios General Manager The Commons on Thornton is a place where compassion resides and its residents thrive. We believe in supporting a place that promotes dignity independence and the privacy of our residents she emphasized. We welcome them as family and strive 60 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM cookies stand at the ready for that mid-afternoon craving. Modified diets are also available for those who must adhere to certain medically-directed diets as prescribed by a physician. Additionally residents have access to transportation to and from appointments shopping and more. It s world class service delivered in a home-like environment. No matter what you desire the staff works tirelessly to deliver. Enjoy weekly housekeeping service medication management a relaxing massage pedicure or manicure. From all of their personal care services to a wealth of exciting activities from which to choose The Commons on Thornton is sure to have what you want when you want it. This is the place where quality personalized care meets your independence and sense of empowerment. We provide a well-rounded wellness experience for our residents focusing on all aspects of their lives from social to emotional to spiritual noted Marie. In short we give them a new lease on life through a very favorable and positive experience. Keep your calendar at the ready too as there is always something exciting brewing on this beautiful campus. We have numerous celebrations all year long smiled Marie. Among such events include the crab feed a celebration of Elvis birthday a car show that boasts antique collectibles from the 1920s 1950s and a week-long activity-filled week each September as they honor National Assisted Living Week. We also have monthly brunches for residents and their families and we tailor each of these events with a certain theme explained Marie. For example in February our brunch theme was the Chinese New Year. It s our goal and commitment to make everything fun and entertaining for our residents. The Commons on Thornton is not just an assisted living facility. It is truly a place where residents feel like unique individuals again where they can spend time with their peers nurturing friendships and creating new ones along the way. It s a place where living becomes exceptional not ordinary or routine. It s a place where everyone knows your name and makes you feel right at home. Every single staff member is fully-trained to compassionately meet the needs of our residents stated Marie. At The Commons on Thornton we offer choices and we consistently and happily deliver those with care and respect. For more information on The Commons on Thornton visit them at 10711 Thornton Road Stockton call 209-476-1500 or go online at HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 61 HERLIFE bridal MOST FORGOTTEN ITEMS ON YOUR BIG DAY... by m a r isa manna ferrel l Y 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 our wedding day will be one of the most special days of your life--and it could also be one of the most stressful Here s a checklist for some of those items that will make this day one of relaxation that you will always remember. 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 Choose a cake knife and server (the smart planner keeps a set in her emergency toolbox ) Wear the correct undergarments for your dress Plan ahead to save the bride s bouquet and use a toss bouquet or a bridesmaid s bouquet Drink plenty of water and eat both before and after the ceremony Be sure to sign within the box of the marriage license Pack your cell phone charger Select a pretty hanger for your dress photos Pack a complete wedding night bag Have a gracious thank-you speech prewritten Enjoy your day (let your wedding planner handle all the details) Be sure to tell family about the Reserved seating for the ceremony Decide where and with whom the gifts cards alcohol leftovers extra favors etc... go after the reception Think about tips for vendors Remember the rings Supply pens for guest book Feed your bridal party before the wedding festivities Marisa Manna Ferrell is an event planning professional who pays tremendous attention to detail and has the training experience connections and natural ability to plan any type of event large or small. Marisa is the proprietor owner of So Eventful a full service wedding & event coordination company in Healdsburg. Contact her at 707.385.9632 or visit the website at 62 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 63 HERLIFE she said yes Lauren and Kyle Date of proposal November 25 2011 L b y m ar i l y n i s am i n g e r p h o t o s by b rig g s p h o t o g ra p h y auren Knapp and Kyle Torska met on a blind date in November of 2010 arranged by mutual friends who thought the two would have something in common. Neither was looking for a relationship at the time but agreed to go on the date nevertheless. The date went well unexpected reveal the good news. Lauren reveals what she considers special about the couple s relationship. We dated for only a year before we got engaged which may seem fast to some but for us it was all the time we needed to know that we were meant to be together for the long haul. When you know you know On our wedding day however we will have been engaged for over a year and a half a year of which was spent in a long-distance situation. Kyle moved to Georgia for his job and I was in Arizona finishing my bachelor s degree. Finally being able to be together in the same place permanently is truly something for us to celebrate and is something that we have wanted for a long time. The wedding is set for June 15 2013. Lauren and Kyle currently live in Georgia while their families live in Arizona and California. Lauren says Because we live so far away we do not get to see our families as often as we would like and it is very rare for everyone to be in one place at one time. It s important to us that we are able to enjoy the time we will have with everyone because it is such an infrequent thing. We also want to make sure that all of our guests have a good time. This is the happiest day of our lives and we want everyone to share in our joy. To the future bride and groom a wedding is more than just a couple getting married--it is two families becoming one. They will not be doing the traditional ceremony seating with the bride s guests on the left and the groom s on the right. Since everyone will be one family Lauren and Kyle feel that everyone should sit together as one family would. Also since Kyle was in a fraternity during his college years all of his brothers will be serenading Lauren with their sweetheart song at the reception a tradition that is very meaningful to Kyle and sure to be very entertaining to all of their guests. magic happened and Lauren and Kyle have been together ever since. Kyle proposed to Lauren on November 25 2011 during the Thanksgiving holiday. Lauren s parents and brothers traveled to Phoenix for Thanksgiving in order to spend the holiday with her Kyle and Kyle s family. The day after Thanksgiving both families went out to dinner and then to Zoolights an annual holiday season event of the Phoenix Zoo. The entire zoo was decorated with Christmas lights and Christmas music was playing through all the speakers. In the center of the zoo there is a very large lake with a small walkway that follows the lake on one side. The walkway is lined with overhanging trees and all the trees were covered with white icicle lights. Kyle led Lauren down the walkway away from both of their families and took her to one of the park benches facing the lake to enjoy the view. Once both were seated on the bench Kyle mentioned that he would like to take a picture of the lights and the lake. One of Kyle s hobbies is photography and he had brought his camera bag along with him. He got up off the bench got on one knee and reached for his camera bag. He unzipped the bag and instead of pulling out his camera he pulled out a ring box which caught Lauren completely off guard. The ring caught all of the twinkle lights from the trees making the ring sparkle like crazy. He asked Lauren the million dollar question to which she immediately said Yes He slipped the ring on her finger and they went to find their families to 64 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 65 HERLIFE tie the knot Emily Ethan Tied the Knot August 17th 2012 & E friends. 66 b y m ar i l y n i s am i ng e r ph o t o s b y b rig g s p h o t o g ra p h y mily (Hetzner) Chelli is 31 years old and was born and raised in Lodi. She attended college at UC Davis after 10 years away she moved back to Lodi without knowing it would be one of the best decisions of her life. Ethan Chelli is 30 years old and originally from StockAs he recalls they dated for a short time then and started dating again last year. Emily tells a slightly different version. We originally met numerous times at places around Davis but it took 3 years for Ethan to actually remember my name she recalls. The couple dated for a short time and ended up parting ways staying in touch but when one was available the other was not. Finally Emily decided Whatever was supposed to happen between us was simply not meant to be. That s when fate stepped in. Minutes after I had written him off Amy called with a warning that we might actually both be available to date each other. I laughed because Amy was the one constantly trying to console whoever was complaining to her about the other and often telling us both to move on and find someone else. The result was more than either could have hoped or dreamed. ton. Ethan also attended UC Davis which proved to be serendipitous for the couple. They currently live in Lodi with their 2 year old Rottweiler Soga and could not be happier to be close to family and Emily and Ethan met in college at UC Davis although exactly how they met differs depending on who tells the story. Ethan remembers spotting her across a room and asking a mutual friend Amy who she was then introducing himself and the two talking throughout the night. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM LOCAL BUSINESSES THAT SHARED IN THE LOVE BRIDAL GOWN The Elizabeth Bridal Salon Lodi BRIDESMAIDS GOWNS Ann Taylor HAIR STYLING The Spa at Wine & Roses Lodi PHOTOGRAPHY Briggs Photography VIDEOGRAPHY ikandi films Stockton FLORIST The Big Bang Event Design Sacramento DJ AND PHOTO BOOTH Elite Entertainment Stockton CATERER Chef Fabrice Dubac Wine & Roses CAKE The Frosted Flour Lodi VENUE Wine & Roses Lodi JEWELER Emily says Ethan is more than the man I ever realized he was and I am so blessed to be able to spend the rest of my life with him. There is nobody I can rely on lean on complain to laugh with or have more fun with than Ethan. Ethan describes their relationship as the best thing to ever happen to me. No matter how things are I can always count on Emily to be there for me to talk and laugh together and look forward to each and every day together. She is my one true love. Ethan surprised Emily with a proposal in the Hideaway Suite at Wine & Roses with a little help from her friends at work. Her boss asked her to meet a customer and show the hotel rooms located in the Inn. She was less than thrilled to do this one minute before going home and made her way over to the Inn. The owner Kathryn let her know that the customer was already upstairs. Emily says As I walked in the door of the hotel room Ethan was there and I immediately knew. After he got down on one knee and asked me I was so choked up I could barely get the yes out of my mouth. He still claims I never said yes. At that point we popped the champagne and enjoyed some hors d oeuvres on the balcony. Continued on page 68 Ybarra Jewelers Inc. Stockton INVITATIONS & STATIONERY Jill Means Design Inc. Lodi CEG Invitations Stockton CALLIGRAPHERS Amanda Bondoc place cards The Calligraphy Girl invitations CEREMONY MUSIC Elegance Harp and Flute AFTER PARTY BAND Cold Shot HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 67 The blissful couple tied the knot on August 17th 2012. Emily s bridal party included her three sisters Jen Hetzner Anna Hetzer and Hilary Hetzner her best friend Amy Rosson and Karina Garcia Ethan s sister. Ethan s five groomsmen were his closest friend and brother Christian as best man and friends Matt Langford Dave Loring Greg Thompson and Eddie Zeiter. Emily and Ethan combined traditional and new elements to make their wedding day unique. They kept tradition and did not see each other before the ceremony. Emily says This was Ethan s idea and I am so glad we did this. It made the ceremony that much more special and added a fun element before the wedding. Since neither likes cake they opted for a dessert bar that was full of mini desserts including cookies cheesecake fruit tarts chocolate mousse and cannoli. After the more formal reception in the Garden Ballroom the party moved to the Cellar Room at Wine & Roses decked out with blue and gold for a UC Davis-themed after party. The band Cold Shot who played at the couple s favorite bar in Davis provided the music and guests were able to enjoy a more relaxed atmosphere with drinks party games and pizza. Ethan adds Our day was special to me for one reason alone the woman I married. Not only was that exciting she put so much effort and planning into the day to make sure it was special for us both and it s a day I will never forget. Emily and Ethan honeymooned in Cabo San Lucas since both are beach bums who love the sunshine and they were able to enjoy the delicious all-inclusive food and libations. 68 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 69 HERLIFE scene and be seen Pacific Plays Pink pho to graphy by kr istoff er h eacox O n February 2nd the Men s and Women s Basketball Teams at University of the Pacific hosted Pacific Plays Pink. Both teams wore pink jerseys in support of breast cancer awareness. Fans joined in and wore pink to support the Pacific teams as they raised money for the St. Joseph s Foundation for Breast Cancer services. For more information please visit 70 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 71 Stockton Thunder presents Hockey Has Heart pho to graphy by herlife s t aff T he Stockton Thunder hosted the 2nd Annual Hockey Has Heart event on February 1st at the Stockton Arena. Fans enjoyed local vendors on the concourse level and learned the importance of leading a heart healthy lifestyle. The Thunder continues to partner with the American Heart Association to raise awareness and funds for heart health. Fans wore red to help promote the Go Red for Women campaign kicking off National Wear Red Day on February 1st. For more information please visit 72 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Get Married Modesto p hoto g r a ph y by lila im a g e s M odesto area brides-to-be attended a bridal event like no other on January 13th. Future brides visited with the top area vendors from DJs to photographers to florists and more Mira Bridal Couture hosted the fashion show and showcased the newest bridal styles for 2013. For more information on the next bridal event please visit HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 73 Lodi Chamber of Commerce 90th Annual Meeting p hotog r a ph y by herlife s t a ff T he Lodi Chamber of Commerce hosted its 90th Annual Meeting on January 24 at Wine & Roses in Lodi. In addition to celebrating the Chamber s 90 years Bill and Carol Meehleis of Meehleis Modular Buildings were honored with the Citizens of the Year Award. For more information on upcoming Chamber events or membership please visit 74 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM DowntownTRACY HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 75 HERLIFE in the valley DETAILS The Tracy Women s Forum Association presents the 15th MARCH 14 A Vintage Bridal Fashion Show and Luncheon DATE March 14 TIME 11 00am - 2 30pm LOCATION The Stockton Golf and Country Club Stockton DETAILS The Stockton Opera Guild Presents Remembering the Way We Were. The fashion show will feature gowns worn by local women and guild members. Proceeds from the day will support the 2013 Stockton Opera Association s production of The Marriage of Figaro May 17th and 19th at the University of the Pacific. Tickets are 50 per guest 400 for a table of eight. For ticket information please call 209-463-6957 or email linley17 Annual Women s Conference Let Your Life Take Flight Join keynote speaker Vicki Lawrence for a powerful event that brings together the many diverse and dynamic women of Tracy and surrounding communities. It promises a day filled with best practices for making the choices that lead to a fulfilling life whatever your circumstances. Pre-registration is 50. For more information including table sponsorship or vendor information call 888-217-2740 or visit 16 The Camellia Society of Modesto presents the annual Camellia Show DATE March 16 TIME 2 00pm to 5 00pm LOCATION Palm Court in the Gallo Administration Building 600 Yosemite Boulevard Modesto DETAILS This is the Camellia Society s 52nd year as an organization in Modesto. The camellia show as always is free and open to the public. For this one annual weekend the Gallo grounds and the Gallo Camellia Gardens with their 1 000 beautiful camellia plants are open for the public to enjoy their beauty. The Modesto show continues to be one of the premier camellia shows in the United States. The Camellia Society will also have over 200 camellia plants in various sizes for sale at the show in addition to many beautiful blooms to view. For more information please call Barbara Bort 209-537-9945. Redhead Express & The Walker Family DATE March 14 TIME 7 00pm LOCATION Hutchins Street Square Charlene Powers Lange Theatre Lodi DETAILS Join us for a night of entertainment and high energy music. Redhead Express features a home-grown blend of contemporary country old-fashioned bluegrass and Americana while The Walker Family delights with tight harmonies and hard-driving instrumentals in their unique acoustic sound. Tickets are 29.00. For more information please visit or call the box office 209-333-5550. 21 Young Professionals of Lodi Spring Mixer DATE March 21 TIME 5 30pm LOCATION Van Ruiten Family Winery 340 W Hwy 12 Lodi DETAILS Join the Young Professionals of Lodi for our Spring Mixer. This group of young professionals is associated with the Lodi Chamber of Commerce and focuses on bringing young people in the Lodi region together for networking professional development and mentoring. Please join us for a great night of networking and fun. For more information or to RSVP please visit 15 Bee a Good Sport DATE March 15 TIME 5 00pm to 9 00pm LOCATION Stockton Civic Memorial Auditorium Stockton DETAILS This is the 22nd Annual Trivia Bee with this year s theme Bee a Good Sport and trivia teams are currently being sought to participate in this fun-filled event Tables are also available for groups of eight which includes admission dinner and entry into the table decoration contest all for just 250 For tickets or more information call 209-957-7277. 26 In The Mood DATE March 26 TIME 7 00pm LOCATION Hutchins Street Square Charlene Powers Lange Theatre Lodi DETAILS The 1940s musical review is returning for an encore performance. Don t miss singers and dancers appearing with the sensational String of Pearls Big Band Orchestra. The music and arrangements are as authentic as it gets. Tickets range from 16.50- 43.50 For more information please visit or call the box office 209-333-5550. 15th Annual Women s Conference DATE March 15 TIME 8 30am to 2 30pm LOCATION Tracy Community Center 950 East St. Tracy 76 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 29 Last Chance Crab Feed Get a team together tell your friends family and co-workers Register early for the biggest discount For group discounts call Yvonne (209)969-6048. DATE March 29 TIME 6 00pm Social Hour Dinner starts at 7 00pm LOCATION Lodi Grape Festival Grounds Lodi DETAILS United Cerebral Palsy will hole their 4th Annual Last Chance Crab Feed possibly your last chance to enjoy a crab feed this season Tickets are 45 per person. Social hour will begin at 6 00pm followed by dinner music and dancing. Raffle and Silent Auction items will be part of the festivities. Please reserve tickets by March 25 for further information call 209-956-0290 or visit events. 4 28 DATE April 28 2nd Annual Spring of the Vine TIME 2 00pm to 5 00pm LOCATION Wine & Roses 2505 W. Turner Road Lodi DETAILS A unique New Release Wine Event with cuisine live music and an artist showcase set in distinctive surroundings and featuring 24 Lodi wineries and their light reds lights and ros s. Also enjoy Spring of the Vine Dinner from 6-9pm. Join the winemakers and wineries for a family-style dinner showcasing fun fresh seasonal cuisine and a sampling of the many Spring of the Vine wines. Wine Tasting ticket price is 35 per person which includes cuisine live music an artist showcase and a printed program. Cost at the door is 45 per person. Spring of the Vine family-style dinner is 85 per person and Spring of the Vine wine SAVE THE DATE 4 6 Mud Run on the Farm tasting event and dinner 105. For reservations call 209-371-6117 or email sales DATE April 6th TIME Waves start at 8 00am LOCATION Dell Osso Family Farm 501 Manthey Rd Lathrop DETAILS Get down and dirty at Dell Osso Family Farm for the 5k Mud Run A portion of the proceeds benefit the American Cancer Society. All calendar event submissions must be received by February 25th for the April issue and adhere to our guidelines. E-mail kimberly for guidelines or to submit entries. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 77 78 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Effortless beautiful and everything we thought it would be. Thank you - Judy B. Stockton We love it It s home improvement Contractor s Lic. 886537